I think some people have every excuse in the book why they are a certain way or why they can’t change. I used to be that way myself. I have heard just recently “I’m fat because of you” That is complete and utter crap. Don’t blame anyone but yourself. You are responsible for your own happiness and who you are as a person no one else. If you really want to change you can change. I did it and I’m still on that journey to change me. Most of the time it’s a challenge I enjoy. Then there are days I want to pack it up and walk away from it, but then I think about how great I feel. How I can do things I couldn’t do before. I couldn’t fit in a booth at 400 pounds, now at 195 pounds I fit great. I’m starting to see where working out 6 to 7 days a week is helping me move with confidence and grace.

I have my trainer to thank for that. He is an awesome person who cares about his clients and their progress. If they work hard, he works hard for them. The funny thing is when I was 400 pounds, I would never have thought I would have him for a trainer. He is in an amazing shape to look at him is very intimidating. Being a woman, you think someone like that would pick on me. So, the opposite, he is very inspiring. He owns his own gym at 22 years old. I have mentioned Jagur in a previous post the inspiration post.

Let’s talk gyms shall we, I have been a member to many commercial gyms and never seen the results I see now. I swear those gyms want to see fat people fail so they can keep charging them knowing they are not going, and they don’t care they are getting their money. Now that I’m a member at Jagur’s gym (Jagstrong Gym Portland, CT) I see such a difference. I am not a number, and I don’t get lost in a sea of people with opinions. I have met some of the nicest people there. There are nice and mean people everywhere, but I do feel they actually care.

Another thing women need to realize, lifting weights is more important for women than for men. There are so many more health benefits for women. More so for women over 50, like helping with bone loss and menopause weight gain. Women can gain 5 to 15 pounds a year through their menopause years. Lifting weight along with cardio you burn more calories and more often. Evidence has shown that weightlifting burns more fat and can promise long term results as appose to just cardio training.

I never want to hear I’m too old to get in shape or I am to fat or my knees and back hurt. These are all just bullshit excuses. I’m 50 years old and I was 400 pounds, and I couldn’t stand by the sink to wash dishes and now thanks to my trainer and dedication, consistency and intensity I can run a mile and I feel amazing. I went from a size 28 to a size 8. It took 3 and a half years. It’s been an amazing journey, and I am nowhere near done. It doesn’t have to be weight loss. It could be anything. Do what gives you confidence and grace. What makes you whole and happy? What’s stopping you?

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Trish wilcox · September 11, 2023 at 2:01 am

You are an inspiration! I love your blogs and look forward to reading them.

    Kim.Gagne@findingrealwellness.com · September 15, 2023 at 12:26 am

    I plan on starting a podcast soon also. I am very proud to be an inspiration, that is the whole reason I started doing this blog. So everyone can know anyone can do it at any time and at any age. I wish I knew how important it was to love yourself first.

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